Not dating until marriage?
Has that thought ever crossed your mind? It surely hasn’t mine. I believe in abstaining from having sexual relations until marriage, but dating? How are you going to know a person on a one on one basis? The whole concept of dating is to get to know the person, and so where is the logic in this?
The Christian band BarlowGirl’s fan base is largely pre-teen/teenaged girls. The BarlowGirl’s, Rebecca, Lauren, and Alyssa Barlow, have all made a commitment to abstaining from dating until marriage. I have to ask, why? In this video, they explain why:
I agree with the modesty thing. I appreciate that they think what occurs in my mind when I look at girls. It’s true, clothing does change the way I look at a girl. The purity ring is cool… but I just can’t agree that waiting until marriage to date is a good thing. I am not the same person when I am with a group of people than when it is one on one.
How can you really get to know a person if you have never been alone with that person? I’m sure it could work out, but it’s not practical by any means. You can date and still be pure.
My advice would to seek what God wants in every relationship. Look inward, and cast emotions aside to see what God’s plan is for you. That is not an easy thing to do, but if you want a Godly relationship with someone, then you need to seek out and follow God’s will.
2 comments| Posted: Jun 3, 10:55 PM in blog, by Jeremy Emberling
I agree with it
— Ashley · Jun 4, 05:21 AM · #
I agree with it in some ways. I dated and I found my husband. We got to know each other before we were married. I could not marry someone that I didn’t date before. That’s scary! Ryan and I got to know each other through dating and spending time with each other, alone. Within 3 dates, I knew he was the one I was to marry. I wouldn’t have, if I didn’t date him. I dated other guys before him and I realized after spending time with them, they were not right for me. If I married the first guy I was with, then realized that, what would you do then? Power to those girls who feel that they should not date till marriage. It’s not for everyone. It was not for me!
— Shelly · Jun 4, 02:44 PM · #